Breastfeeding Tips you need to know before giving Birth

Best Breastfeeding Tips to read before you have the Baby!

Best Breastfeeding Tips! (read before having a baby)

Breastfeeding Tips you need to know before giving Birth

Skin to Skin after Birth

Skin to skin contact after birth with Mom has been shown to help send signals to the body that the baby has arrived!

Baby stay in room in Hospital

I am not sure how you feel about this, but I might recommend baby bring in the room with you.  One of those first nights it felt like Leo was awake all night constantly eating, and I think that is a common process where baby is sending a message to your body that baby is here and starting your milk coming in.

Give your partner some expectations

Bring you water and food, even if they are snack bars. This may sound like I am being lazy but when the baby just fell asleep on you, sometimes it’s not even worth moving. But, you will need water and food to keep your milk supply up!

Support your Back & know your form

Stack pillows on your lap and a nursing pillows on top of that. Don’t lean over. It’s bad for your breastfeeding form and your back. 

Get a good latch

If it hurts, break the seal, unlatch baby and try again. Boob should go deep in babies mouth. Watch videos to know details of babies head and your boobs.

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LLL a Leche League is a good support group

It is essentially a group of women going around in a circle talking about how great breastfeeding is, but I enjoyed going even though I was terrified leaving the house on my own with baby so soon after birth.

Get help early!

If you are having issues, get a consultant or go to a LLL meeting and try to get some help.

Delayed Pacifier Use

Some people swear by pacifiers, and I think they can help a baby suck back to sleep without needing Mom which is why they are so great. I didn’t use any pacifiers or bottles early on to not risk nipple confusion, and my son never ended up taking one. This is fine with me, but some Mom’s might decide they really want that tool in their tool box.

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Delay pumping breast milk until your supply regulates

This will help prevent an oversupply and possible problem with engorgement, etc.  I didn’t start pumping for a month after baby came so my supply could regulate.  Not all mom’s have this luxury depending on when. They need to go back to work, but this is what I found to be recommended

Baby might eat OFTEN and that’s okay!

Also, Leo ate a lot early on. Sources often say baby needs to eat every three hours, but in those first weeks feedings were more like every twenty minutes which a lot of people don’t realize when people are visiting, and you are constantly breastfeeding. Just know that of your babies pee and poop output is the recommended amount, then baby is getting enough food and you don’t need to supplement if you don’t want to.

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Nursing pillows

So I mentioned that for the young baby I like the my breast friend nursing pillow and cover. They are definitely not stylish but they were the most functional. Once baby was bigger like 4-6 months maybe, I started to prefer the boppy pillow. 

Nursing bras

I have a lot of nursing bras. I like the thin ones when I’m at home and the nursing tanks when I go out in public to block my chubby belly, but this is my favorite because it provides support! Definitely buy some nursing bras though if you are hoping to breasfeed a while. Regular bras and sports bras might not give your boobs the space they need early on.

Breastfeeding Tips you need to know before giving Birth

Baby sleeping in a cosleeper was helpful to me

Leo slept in our bed in the snuggle me organic bed. Make sure to read all the rules about what is recommended first. I also switched to side feeding when baby was a little bigger and that helped my go back to sleep easier.

Use bottles that work for you

When we did use a bottle after about a month, we ended up with the Dr. Brown’s wide mouthed glass bottles. I think a bottle warmer would be helpful if you are going to be heating up bottles often. Breastfeeding directly from the breast was so much more convenient for me than pumping though. 

Breastfeeding Tips you need to know before giving Birth

You can hate pumping and that’s okay

I hated pumping. It always felt so inconvenient and those bonding hormones aren’t released and can come with it’s own struggles, but once you get the hang of it, it’s doable. It was sometimes hard for me to get my milk to let down during pumping unless I was pretty full. 

If you stop breastfeeding, that’s okay!

It would be difficult to breastfeed as long as I have if I had the typical office job. Breastfeeding is really hard and both parties have to want to do it, so if you stop, that’s okay! You are still a good mom!

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If you are Pregnant, You need to know these TOP PREGNANCY TIPS!

When I first had my baby, one of my very good friends got pregnant, and I just wanted to share with her all of my tips. Everyone’s experience is different, because everyone has a different situation, but here are my top tips for pregnancy and birth!

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Suspend all judgement for other Moms!

Motherhood has taught me to really have very little judgement towards others in their Parenthood journey. Parenthood is so hard, and it doesn’t come with a manual! You really have to do what is right for you and your partner.  Just be grateful for any advantages you have!

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Eat dates for a faster Labor & Delivery!

This might is very hippy dippy (which I kind of am), but I ate 7 dates a day in my last few weeks of pregnancy after being told it can shorten your labor.  I really like the evidence based birth website. I am not sure if it’s true, but I did have the shortest birth out of all the girls in my birth class (4 of us, so not a huge sample size). My midwife also said I had the best birth of all of them, which is insane to me because birth is so hard.

The “early labor” period is often not bad!

My labor started just after I woke up.  If I hadn’t  just woken up, I have heard to tip to sleep, rest, and maybe eat something early on in the labor. Later when contractions are more intense or if you are at a hospital, you can’t eat or rest as much. Often times, women just get too tired so resting early on is important. I think labor didn’t start getting really tough until the 6-9 hour mark after I was having contractions., but everyone’s birth story is different!

Keep Walking during Pregnancy!

I walked all the way to the day I had the baby. I also drank raspberry leaf tea in the last couple weeks … kind of a lot of it. When you start trying to get labor going, you might try a lot of things!

You might have a tear during Birth

I am hesitant to mention this, because it feels private but I had a lot of fear around tearing and lasting damage after birth that I wanted to include it. I had a second degree tear after the birth. After a few months, I felt completely back to normal with no lasting damages.

Work through your Fears before Birth

I think it is good to work through your fears about birth before you go into labor, so you fully understand where that fear is coming from and the specifics about it. For example, I was scared of birth, but I wasn’t scared of the pain. The pain won’t kill me. I was scared of having a c section, but when I really thought about it… I feel lucky because previously in childbirth without a c section as an option, the mother or babies lives would be in danger. You might be the opposite of me, and be scared of pain and really want a C Section, and that is valid too. Often times what happens is out of your control, as well. You can just do your best to set yourself up for success.

My self talk was viewing myself as a failure if I had a C Section, but no one else would think that. Everyone else in my life just wants me and my baby to be okay. That was just a pressure I was putting on myself.

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Delay Cord Clamping and Skin to Skin if possible

After a vaginal birth, it was important to me to wait till the cord stopped pumping blood. We actually waited about an hour before cutting the cord with Leo, and just left it while he sat on my chest skin to skin. This may be an easier request since I was in a Birth Center versus a hospital.  I felt tired and dehydrated during this time and drank a lot of Gatorade during and after the birth. I also breastfed early on and the midwives were and to help me that first time.

Breastfeeding is hard

Breastfeeding is hard for everyone, and impossible for some. I studied some tips on breastfeeding beforehand which I recommend. Kellymom is a great website resource. Friends are also an incredible resource if you know of someone who also breastfed. If breastfeeding is really important to you, and you have issues early on, I definitely recommend contacting a lactation consultant early on to help get you started. I think early intervention is really helpful. I know a lot of moms struggle with this.

After Birth Recovery is tough!

The recovery time is hard on you too! I can’t speak to the challenges of a c section recovery (probably even harder!) but for a vaginal recovery… I recommend the diapers/big pad underwear for a few days or a week until things lighten up and then switching to pads. I had some soreness and itchiness from the stitches, and buying the hospital style cold packs on Amazon to put in my underwear really helped me to sleep. Too much Information!

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You might cry…like A LOT after Birth

In those first weeks (months?) after Birth, I was so emotional during this first week and struggled a lot after with adjusting to this new life that was no longer about me and all about this other human. At first, it was so difficult for me to even take a shower.  But the first week I do feel like you go through a time where you cry a lot.

Advocate for yourself during and after Birth

You might be a very nice flexible person, but you have to advocate for yourself during this time. If someone wants to visit and you don’t want to them to, tell your partner to tell them you are too tired or you and the baby are sleeping and come another day. Don’t feel bad about it. Do what’s best for you. This might have been even harder for me, because I went home the day the baby was born, so I saw people very quickly without the support from the hospital.  It was hard to even go for walks for weeks if not months, but I tried to as soon as I could because I felt like I needed to get out of the house with the baby, but I was scared to go in public too much around germs.

Have Baby Sleep in your Room with you after Birth

If you are hoping to breastfeed, I recommend bringing baby in the room with you. I didn’t use any pacifiers or bottles early on to not risk nipple confusion.  One of those first nights it felt like Leo was awake all night constantly feeding (often called cluster feeding), and I think that is a common process where baby is sending a message to your body that baby is here and starting your milk coming in.

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Set Expectations of what you are hoping your spouse can help with after the Birth

This is hard, because you don’t know exactly, but I recommend telling your partner to bring you food and water during these early times is important. Snack bars can be really easy too. 
I think having a child is really hard on a marriage because you are both so tired and there’s not enough time to do everything and things fall through the cracks. Ladies, you will probably do way more with the baby and be exhausted and want a break and your husband won’t be as helpful as you’d like. I’ve learned to nicely (that’s the goal) ask when I need help instead of expecting him to realize that I need help and help me.

Motherhood made me feel crazy. You feel so tired like you need a break , but as soon as you have to leave to go to work you are crying about having to leave them. It is so easy to fall into gender roles of the mom being the caregiver after you have a baby, especially when you are breastfeeding.

I had a baby that only wanted to be with me, Mom, and I often felt resentful towards my husband because he went back to work, and had his old life while I was spending every moment of my life (day and night) taking care of the baby. My husband wasn’t relaxing or avoiding any duties- he was helping take out the trash, make us some dinner, clean the dishes, shower, etc. It just felt like I was doing 90 percent of the baby duties. You will love seeing your spouse love that baby though. It is one of the best parts!

Women all over the world have given birth! Women are amazing powerful creatures!

It is incredible that so many women have given birth. Just remember how amazing medicine is and how many women around the world have given birth. Women are incredible, because they can grow a child and deliver it into this world then feed the baby all themselves! Women have super powers.

Feel free to e-mail me at hello@ourlonglife.com with any questions for me! Always, Ask your Doctor before taking any medical advice!

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15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
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My Baby Registry Items I used the most!

I registered for a lot of different baby items not knowing what I would want! I loved having a few new quality items that I would be using all the time. Here are the items that I used and loved the most in those first 6 months after baby was born! I did my best to have items that reduced added chemicals to the products too!

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The Baby Registry Items I used the Most
The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items

These are the items that worked well for us! If you have hand me down items or cheaper items that you feel good about, then use that and see how it goes. You really don’t need as many items as you think, and you can always amazon prime something to yourself, so you don’t have to have EVERYTHING before baby comes.

The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items
The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items
The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items
Top Tips on Visiting Walt Disney World with a Baby

3 Day Trip Itinerary at Walt Disney World with a Baby!

Our 3 Day Disney World schedule with a 6 Month Old BABY!

(please don’t judge how little we can get done with a baby!)

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Day 1 at Disney World’s Magic Kingdom

Flew in on the EARLYYYY (too early)

Flight on Southwest Houston – Orlando

Uber Car Seat to Polynesian Resort

Checked into room

Wings at Kona Cafe

Ate at Kona cafe

Monorail to Magic Kingdom

Leo slept through Daytime Parade

Rode Dumbo (with Fast Pass but didn’t need it!)

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Carousel

It’s A Small World

Magic Kingdom Railroad – Closed for renovations as of Aug 2019

Ohana for Dinner

Watched Fireworks from the Polynesian  

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Day 2

Slow relaxing Breakfast – Let Dad sleep in while Leo looked out window and gnawed on banana

1st Nap of the Day

Monorail to Magic Kingdom

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Pirates of the Carribean – FastPass

Jungle Canteen Restaurant – with 2nd Nap – the restaurants were popular places to nap

Jungle Cruise -FastPass

Boat Ferry from Magic Kingdom

Relaxed at Polynesian Resort

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Minnie Van to Hollywood Studios

Dinner at Sci-fi Drive-in (Note: Cars are not good for Breastfeeding due to tight space)

Little Mermaid

Bus back (long wait for bus)

Fireworks from the Polynesian  

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Day 3

Slow Breakfast

1st Nap of the Day

Animal Kingdom Bus

Yak and Yeti Restaurant – and 2nd Nap

Finding Nemo the Musical

Wildlife Express Train and Petting Zoo

Avatar Flight of Passage + Rider Swap – With FastPass too!

Kona cafe room service   – This was everything, and there is only like a $5 charge for room service!

Check out my top tips on Disney World with a Baby here!

Top Tips on Visiting Walt Disney World with a Baby
Top Tips on Visiting Walt Disney World with a Baby

Best Parenting Book - Simplicity Parenting

Best Parenting Book

The book I have read that had the biggest impact on my parenting style was Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne and Lisa M. Ross. This book gives very practical advice to create a simplified life that is so amazing for your child. This book really changed my perspective on parenting. The tips are simple and easy to understand, but sometimes a little bit harder to put into practice.

Best Parenting Book - Simplicity Parenting

This is a book I want to read over and over again to keep reminding myself how to help my child by simplifying our lives and focus on what is most important. The book encourages increasing time together without TV while minimizing clutter, too many toys, etc. I listened to this book on audible, and I am so happy I did!

Link to buy the book on Amazon

What to Feed your 6 Month Old - A complete plan

Best Guide to Feeding your 6 Month Old

What to Feed your 6 Month Old - A complete plan

I want to recommend an amazing program on feeding your child when they turn six months of age. First Foods + Beyond was created by a super smart Mama whose skillset is in reading through medical research. She has done all the research and put together a simple plan for a new mama for what to feed Baby day by day with recipes included. It is super easy to follow, and I would highly recommend Megan Garcia’s first foods program when trying to decide what to feed your child. This was a huge value to me. With a 6 month old baby, I barely had any time or energy to devote to researching what or how to feed my child. It was really important to me to start off my baby boy with the healthiest foods possible. I also wanted to properly introduce allergens. Megan Garcia gives you tips and specific brands on a calendar with when and what to feed your baby when they turn six months old.


What to Feed your 6 Month Old - A complete plan

These graphics are from Megan’s amazing website and blog with so much useful information. You can find that here.

I also love how she puts great information on her instagram stories and highlights.

Finally, here is another link to the First Foods + Beyond program.