15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth

If you are Pregnant, You need to know these TOP PREGNANCY TIPS!

When I first had my baby, one of my very good friends got pregnant, and I just wanted to share with her all of my tips. Everyone’s experience is different, because everyone has a different situation, but here are my top tips for pregnancy and birth!

15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth

Top Tips for Pregnant Moms on Pregnancy and Childbirth

Suspend all judgement for other Moms!

Motherhood has taught me to really have very little judgement towards others in their Parenthood journey. Parenthood is so hard, and it doesn’t come with a manual! You really have to do what is right for you and your partner.  Just be grateful for any advantages you have!

15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth

Eat dates for a faster Labor & Delivery!

This might is very hippy dippy (which I kind of am), but I ate 7 dates a day in my last few weeks of pregnancy after being told it can shorten your labor.  I really like the evidence based birth website. I am not sure if it’s true, but I did have the shortest birth out of all the girls in my birth class (4 of us, so not a huge sample size). My midwife also said I had the best birth of all of them, which is insane to me because birth is so hard.

The “early labor” period is often not bad!

My labor started just after I woke up.  If I hadn’t  just woken up, I have heard to tip to sleep, rest, and maybe eat something early on in the labor. Later when contractions are more intense or if you are at a hospital, you can’t eat or rest as much. Often times, women just get too tired so resting early on is important. I think labor didn’t start getting really tough until the 6-9 hour mark after I was having contractions., but everyone’s birth story is different!

Keep Walking during Pregnancy!

I walked all the way to the day I had the baby. I also drank raspberry leaf tea in the last couple weeks … kind of a lot of it. When you start trying to get labor going, you might try a lot of things!

You might have a tear during Birth

I am hesitant to mention this, because it feels private but I had a lot of fear around tearing and lasting damage after birth that I wanted to include it. I had a second degree tear after the birth. After a few months, I felt completely back to normal with no lasting damages.

Work through your Fears before Birth

I think it is good to work through your fears about birth before you go into labor, so you fully understand where that fear is coming from and the specifics about it. For example, I was scared of birth, but I wasn’t scared of the pain. The pain won’t kill me. I was scared of having a c section, but when I really thought about it… I feel lucky because previously in childbirth without a c section as an option, the mother or babies lives would be in danger. You might be the opposite of me, and be scared of pain and really want a C Section, and that is valid too. Often times what happens is out of your control, as well. You can just do your best to set yourself up for success.

My self talk was viewing myself as a failure if I had a C Section, but no one else would think that. Everyone else in my life just wants me and my baby to be okay. That was just a pressure I was putting on myself.

15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth

Delay Cord Clamping and Skin to Skin if possible

After a vaginal birth, it was important to me to wait till the cord stopped pumping blood. We actually waited about an hour before cutting the cord with Leo, and just left it while he sat on my chest skin to skin. This may be an easier request since I was in a Birth Center versus a hospital.  I felt tired and dehydrated during this time and drank a lot of Gatorade during and after the birth. I also breastfed early on and the midwives were and to help me that first time.

Breastfeeding is hard

Breastfeeding is hard for everyone, and impossible for some. I studied some tips on breastfeeding beforehand which I recommend. Kellymom is a great website resource. Friends are also an incredible resource if you know of someone who also breastfed. If breastfeeding is really important to you, and you have issues early on, I definitely recommend contacting a lactation consultant early on to help get you started. I think early intervention is really helpful. I know a lot of moms struggle with this.

After Birth Recovery is tough!

The recovery time is hard on you too! I can’t speak to the challenges of a c section recovery (probably even harder!) but for a vaginal recovery… I recommend the diapers/big pad underwear for a few days or a week until things lighten up and then switching to pads. I had some soreness and itchiness from the stitches, and buying the hospital style cold packs on Amazon to put in my underwear really helped me to sleep. Too much Information!

15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth

You might cry…like A LOT after Birth

In those first weeks (months?) after Birth, I was so emotional during this first week and struggled a lot after with adjusting to this new life that was no longer about me and all about this other human. At first, it was so difficult for me to even take a shower.  But the first week I do feel like you go through a time where you cry a lot.

Advocate for yourself during and after Birth

You might be a very nice flexible person, but you have to advocate for yourself during this time. If someone wants to visit and you don’t want to them to, tell your partner to tell them you are too tired or you and the baby are sleeping and come another day. Don’t feel bad about it. Do what’s best for you. This might have been even harder for me, because I went home the day the baby was born, so I saw people very quickly without the support from the hospital.  It was hard to even go for walks for weeks if not months, but I tried to as soon as I could because I felt like I needed to get out of the house with the baby, but I was scared to go in public too much around germs.

Have Baby Sleep in your Room with you after Birth

If you are hoping to breastfeed, I recommend bringing baby in the room with you. I didn’t use any pacifiers or bottles early on to not risk nipple confusion.  One of those first nights it felt like Leo was awake all night constantly feeding (often called cluster feeding), and I think that is a common process where baby is sending a message to your body that baby is here and starting your milk coming in.

15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth

Set Expectations of what you are hoping your spouse can help with after the Birth

This is hard, because you don’t know exactly, but I recommend telling your partner to bring you food and water during these early times is important. Snack bars can be really easy too. 
I think having a child is really hard on a marriage because you are both so tired and there’s not enough time to do everything and things fall through the cracks. Ladies, you will probably do way more with the baby and be exhausted and want a break and your husband won’t be as helpful as you’d like. I’ve learned to nicely (that’s the goal) ask when I need help instead of expecting him to realize that I need help and help me.

Motherhood made me feel crazy. You feel so tired like you need a break , but as soon as you have to leave to go to work you are crying about having to leave them. It is so easy to fall into gender roles of the mom being the caregiver after you have a baby, especially when you are breastfeeding.

I had a baby that only wanted to be with me, Mom, and I often felt resentful towards my husband because he went back to work, and had his old life while I was spending every moment of my life (day and night) taking care of the baby. My husband wasn’t relaxing or avoiding any duties- he was helping take out the trash, make us some dinner, clean the dishes, shower, etc. It just felt like I was doing 90 percent of the baby duties. You will love seeing your spouse love that baby though. It is one of the best parts!

Women all over the world have given birth! Women are amazing powerful creatures!

It is incredible that so many women have given birth. Just remember how amazing medicine is and how many women around the world have given birth. Women are incredible, because they can grow a child and deliver it into this world then feed the baby all themselves! Women have super powers.

Feel free to e-mail me at hello@ourlonglife.com with any questions for me! Always, Ask your Doctor before taking any medical advice!

15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
15 Tips you need to know before giving Birth on Pregnancy and Child Birth
Walt Disney World with a Toddler Family Photo Locations for Great Family Photos at Magic Kingdom

What to Pack in Your Walt Disney World Park Bag for A Toddler

What to Pack in Your Walt Disney World Park Bag for A Toddler

( In the Summer at Walt Disney World – hot & rainy)

Walt Disney World with a Toddler Family Photo Locations for Great Family Photos at Magic Kingdom
  • Magic Bands or Park Tickets
  • Mickey Ears/ Hat
  • Sunglasses
  • Rain Ponchos & Stroller Rain Cover
  • Plastic Straws or reusable metal straw (Toddlers tear through paper straws so quickly)
  • Snacks -goldfish, fruit snacks, banana, cutie oranges, etc
  • Small Entertainment toys for waits in line or restaurants – stickers, light blocks, small car, new toy, stuff from Target $1 section, glow sticks, etc
  • Toddler Water Bottle & Adult Water bottles (Cheaper than buying in park – Cups of water are free at any food service location)
  • Disney Gift Cards (to Save Money – 5% off when Buy from Sam’s or Target – read more!)
  • Phone (and portable charger if it dies!)
  • Diapers, Wipes, Changing Pad
  • Nursing Cover (If needed)
  • Change of clothes or Swim Diaper (if you anticipate Child going in splash pad or needing it)
Walt Disney World with a Toddler Family Photo Locations for Great Family Photos at Magic Kingdom

Before you leave hotel: Apply Sunscreen

Bring a Stroller even if your toddler doesn’t normally use it!

Walt Disney World with a Toddler Family Photo Locations for Great Family Photos at Magic Kingdom

Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami

South Beach, Miami with a Toddler

Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami

My husband went to South Beach, Miami for his Bachelor Party and has been talking about it ever since, so 6 Years later we planned a trip back as a family to celebrate his 33rd Birthday.

Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami

This post won’t be too much about things to do, but will have a few tips so don’t click off now!

We really wanted a RELAXING vacation for once! Disney, Camping, work-trips are all really fun, but you often come home feeling like you need another vacation! All we wanted to do was eat delicious food and go to the beach/pool, and that’s what we did!

Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami

WHERE WE STAYED IN SOUTH BEACH, MIAMI

What I wanted in my South Beach Hotel

  • A Pool
  • Beach Access
  • Walking Distance to South Beach Restaurants
  • Square footage – this hotel has a kitchen, living room, and bedroom
  • King Bed – this wasn’t always a given
  • Not to Go Broke

The hotel definitely has costs, like $40 a day Valet, which I wasn’t planning to use, but with it raining and not being able to find another great option we did it. We stayed for 4 nights, which is longer than usual, so I wanted to pick a more budget option.

The Square footage was a big seller for me with a toddler that loves to run around. Most of the rooms I looked at were 200-300 Square feet. The hotel was a little dated, but I felt that it was clean and I am happy with my decision.

Alternative Hotels I Loved

These two were both a little further, and I knew we would be wanting to try a variety of really local foods, so our hotel had tons of quality options within walking distance and lots of square footage.

Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami

WHAT WE DID IN SOUTH BEACH, MIAMI

We woke-up walked somewhere local to eat lunch/breakfast, let the toddler nap, and got ready to go to the pool, then to the beach, then showered up for dinner, and back to bed.

Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami

This was a relaxing combination for all of us!

There are tons of family friendly options of things to do, but I really tried hard not to over schedule us. One day we were going to go to Jungle Island, but it was pretty expensive and I wasn’t wanting to spend very long there.

Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami

WHAT WE ATE IN SOUTH BEACH, MIAMI

My husband definitely came here for the FOOD!

BEST PLACE WE ATE IN SOUTH BEACH: CVI.CHE 105 ( Cheap Paid Parking Nearby if you don’t want to walk)

MORNING LATTE AND PASTRIES: AROMA ESPRESSO BAR (Very close to Hotel) – Plus Guava Croissant

QUICK BITE ANYTIME: LA SANDWICHERIE (The Napoli and you can share it!)

CUBAN FOOD: BELLA CUBA

HAVANA 1957 CUBAN CUISINE

TACOS: HUAHUA’s TAQUERIA (Cheap Parking Lot nearby if Don’t want to Walk) – Elotes and Fried Chicken Taco

COYO TACO (A Drive in Wynwood) – Everything, but loved the Duck Confit

BRUNCH: Le Chick (In Wynwood)

COFFEE IN WYNWOOD: Panther (and go check out Wynwood walls)

PERUVIAN: CHALAN ON THE BEACH

WANT TO TRY NEXT TIME: TAQUIZA , BODEGA TAQUERIA Y TEQUILA, and Everything in Little Havana

PRO TIP: Walgreens right next to hotel where we stocked up on water and a few fresh snacks to keep in room for toddler

MY FEARS OF SOUTH BEACH

I was worried that South Beach, Miami would be a big party city, but I never felt uncomfortable or even saw an intoxicated person. We would stay in the room after dinner and no party music kept us awake. I did have to keep my son in the stroller when we were walking, because of all the cars passing by. Everyone was so sweet to my son at restaurants, and I saw lots of other families there too!

Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami - Tips on where to stay and what to eat!
Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami - Tips on where to stay and what to eat!
Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami
Going on a family vacation with a toddler to South Beach, Miami - Tips on where to stay and what to eat!
The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items

My Baby Registry Items I used the most!

I registered for a lot of different baby items not knowing what I would want! I loved having a few new quality items that I would be using all the time. Here are the items that I used and loved the most in those first 6 months after baby was born! I did my best to have items that reduced added chemicals to the products too!

My Favorite Baby Registry Items!

The Baby Registry Items I used the Most
The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items

These are the items that worked well for us! If you have hand me down items or cheaper items that you feel good about, then use that and see how it goes. You really don’t need as many items as you think, and you can always amazon prime something to yourself, so you don’t have to have EVERYTHING before baby comes.

The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items
The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items
The Baby Registry Items I used the Most - My favorite baby registry items
Walt Disney World with a Toddler Family Photo Locations for Great Family Photos at Magic Kingdom

How to take a FAMILY TRIP TO DISNEY FOR $500

We recently took our family of three to Walt Disney World for a weekend trip! I would have never been able to go on this trip if we were going to spend thousands of dollars.

Walt Disney World with a Toddler Family Photo Locations for Great Family Photos at Magic Kingdom

I found flights $50 each way on Southwest airlines, leaving from Houston – Orlando from Friday to Monday. The Friday flight was either early in the morning or arrived late at night. Make sure to check out Southwest’s low fare calendar to try and find deals on flights!

I booked my flights and hotels on points, and my son is still under 3 so he gets into the park for free. This means spending the day at the hotel when you arrive and enjoying their pool. It means missing some of the Disney Parks, but with a two year old we were happy to just show him Magic Kingdom again! We know we will miss stuff, but a weekend trip definitely was amazing and didn’t break the bank.

A big extra expense is food. We spend a lot on Food, but you can cut costs on your food at Disney World too! We had our Uber stop at as CVS for a few extra bucks so we could grab a case of water on the way back to the hotel. Our hotel offered transportation to the parks, but we still spent money on food and Ubers. Disney is not a cheap place, but we had an incredible time without breaking the budget!

Flight: Booked on Points (10,600 points + my Son booked on my Southwest Companion Pass) + $33.60 in taxes

Hotel: Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress (51,000 points to stay at Club Level with free food + beer/wine !)

Park Tickets: 2 Days at the Park for 2 Adults (No Hopper): $477.16

Total for flight, hotel, and parks for 3 people: $510.76‬

A big part of being able to take this trip using points was through collecting points with the Chase Sapphire Preferred Card, Southwest Chase Personal & Business Card. There are supposedly cards where you can get free park tickets too, but I wasn’t able to take advantage of that! Here’s a great place to start in learning about using credit card points for travel.

How I took my family of three to Disney World for $500 including Flights, Hotels, and Park Tickets!
How I took my family of three to Disney World for $500 including Flights, Hotels, and Park Tickets!
How I took my family of three to Disney World for $500 including Flights, Hotels, and Park Tickets!